Legacy Of Fun

How Do I Keep My Legacy Fun... When Life Isn’t?



I have a privileged life. I take a lot for granted. I have freedoms that many can’t even dream of.

I realize this and know that MY picture is not THE picture. I say this only to justify the following statement:

Life isn’t always fun.

The past few weeks have been interesting to say the least.

About a month ago, I learned that my brother has esophageal cancer. It’s a very aggressive cancer and seems to already have spread to his stomach.

About a week after I learned this, my wife started having the worst headaches I’ve ever seen. I mean whimpering and moaning from pain for hours of every day for over a week. Not sleeping, not getting out of bed.

I’m a temp with no insurance, no sick leave, no vacation.

I’ve been trying to work, take care of my wife and our daughter, cook, clean, etc, while also thinking about my brother… all with about 4-5 hours of sleep a night.

For many days during this I had chosen to label myself a lot of things: lazy, weak, careless, clumsy, pathetic, meek, stupid.

But then I shook it off and realized that while those things may be how I FEEL… they are not who I AM.

In the past couple weeks, I have found the keys to unforced smiles and laughter in the midst of all of this:

Faith and Humility

I keep my own faith discussions pretty minimal on this blog, but if you want to know more about that part of my life, you can visit penitentman.com.

Humility is what allows us to feel those things I mentioned… stupid, weak, pathetic… without becoming those things. It allows us to say “I feel pathetic… how interesting!” instead of “I AM pathetic.”

Humility opens SO many roads to fun and laughter.

My wife is on the mend. My brother’s fight is just beginning.

I love my wife. I love my brother. I cannot take away their pain. I can not change what happens inside their bodies. I can not be on top of everything that needs doing.

I do the best I can and find reasons to laugh at myself along the way.

And it’s enough.

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Mar 24,2011 @ 05:53AM

Mike~ I am so sorry your family is struggling. Did you find out what caused your wife’s migraines? Going through things like this always helps me to be more aware of others hurting around me. That is one of the reasons we are given trials- to help others who come along with similar problems and show them how God carried us through it- to encourage and support others. Not everyone could handle what your family is enduring. God chose you and deemed you worthy so that you can then be His gift of blessing to someone else. Isn’t He wonderful to not only give us His Comforter, but also human comfort when He allows us to go through trials?! Thank you for sharing this so I can pray for you and your family. I’m sorry if this comment crossed a spiritual border for you blog.

Mike Mitrovich (author)

Mar 26,2011 @ 07:11AM

Thanks for your comments Langela!

Turned out there were some vertebrae out of alignment high in my wife’s neck causing severe tension headaches. Doctors misdiagnosed and sent us down a different path. Once we figured it out, she has been getting steadily better, but it took us awhile.

And definitely, God constantly proves to me that he is loving and trustworthy with anything going on in my life.

Thank you for your prayers!

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